Last week was international coaching week, I’m sure you had it marked on your calendar 🙂
The other day I had a conversation with my mentor coach, who asked me to think about what I’ve learned, since I started out. I thought back to my younger self fresh off the coaching certification block and I came up with quite a list. A key aspect of cultivating a growth mindset is to take a moment to reflect on everything you’ve accomplished, and congratulate your successes. To sit and take stock of how far you’ve come is one of the most rewarding things a person can do. It’s a shame most of the time we find ourselves just too busy to lean in. I wanted to share my list with all of you, so here goes…
I have learned what real friendship looks like. I have learned that balance is a key component in any relationship worth having.
I have learned there is no such thing as perfect. Practice makes better.
I have learned to question my motivation for why I do things. Is it to grow and develop? Or is it to look good?
I have learned not to rely on male attention for a feeling of self-worth.
I have learned that true assertiveness is not falling back into old reactive patterns but choosing how I want to respond.
I have learned to rely on the power of God. She is real. She is always with me, especially at my darkest moments.
I have learned to recognize my strategies for numbing my emotions. And that to heal, I have to feel.
I have learned that by doing this work, I am a better coach for my clients, and I can really show up for them.
I have learned that sometimes I need to take space for myself, and that is okay.
I have learned that transformation and change is possible.
I have learned to ask myself what is it that I really want.
I have learned to surrender and let God take control.
I have learned that there will be darkness at times, and without darkness there can be no light.
I have learned I can be motivated by new and exciting things that have nothing to do with money, power or prestige.
I have learned to embrace my softness.
I have learned what makes a good husband and a good wife.
I have learned how to make my own choices.
I have learned I don’t need flattery. I’ll take it, but I don’t need it.
I have learned to love my height, every bit of being a six foot one woman.
I have learned to live more fully in my body. I understand the importance of grounding in one’s body as a response to fear and trauma.
I have learned the healing power of yoga.
I have learned to stop name dropping. Nobody ever cared except for me anyway.
I learned I like the piano.
I have learned that I am wise.
I have learned I am creative.
I learned to keep asking questions and never give up on my healing.
I learned how to travel the world with one suitcase.
I have learned my value is not determined by how much I make or what I charge.
I’ve learned to heed the feeling of being comprised and that boundaries are important. And before I didn’t have healthy ones.
I have learned that true vulnerability is a great strength.
I’ve learned that everything I need lies already in me and to beware of false prophets. There are many out there ready to take your money.
I have learned the only person worth competing with is myself.
I have learned that if I do the important work on myself, I will attract the exact right clients I need at exactly the right time.
I have learned I can write.
I have learned that I learn by making mistakes. And I will make many more.
I have learned I have the power to heal my wounds.
I have learned I am strong.
I have learned that it’s okay to do what you have to do to survive, as long as you learn from it.
I have learned that it’s okay to do things just for fun.
I have learned that busyness was just a flimsy tool to avoid doing the real work on myself.
I have learned to forgive myself. And with that, all things are possible in this world.