Career Coaching, Leadership
Sorry, there is no perfect career. You still have to do your inner work.
There’s a common misconception floating around currently where passion and purpose is concerned and the whole decision of career path. “When I find my passion, my job won’t feel like work.” “When I’m following my purpose, I’ll be fearless. I’ll know I’ve found the right career path. The things that used to scare me just won’t anymore.” Don’t get me wrong, tapping into passion and purpose is great. A lot of my career coaching and leadership coaching work is geared at helping folks recognize these things for themselves and connect to them in a meaningful way. But as far as the above statements are concerned – I hate to burst your bubble, but they just aren’t true. I’ll give you an example. I love teaching, I love facilitating. It’s when I’ve had probably the most moments in actual flow – those moments you lose yourself, time passes and you’re not watching the clock. These are magical moments, as you’re completely present, mindful and 100% engaged in what you’re doing. I often suggest coaching clients think about times when they have entered this state as a way of connecting with activities and topics that bring joy. The more you notice a correlation between flow moments and a certain activity, it may be a good career path option to explore. There is no career path that will deliver constant flow But that doesn’t mean shifting your focus to that activity or career path will automatically bring you into an instant state of flow 100% of the time. The human experience is way more complicated than that. I’ve also had a lot of scary moments as a trainer and a facilitator. Difficult participants, difficult clients, difficult colleagues. Logistical challenges where a room hasn’t been ready, the materials failed to show up or a flash flood was suddenly headed my way with a room full of participants and no idea what to do. Add to this my personal favorite – incomplete or incoherent course content that’s only been delivered to me a day or so before a program and I’m expected to pull off a miracle with no time to prepare. Before every delivery I’m a little bit nervous. There are often insecurities that come up – What if I don’t know enough? What if I get asked a question I don’t know the answer to and look stupid in front of participants? What if I can’t handle the challenging dynamics in the room? Things are often coming at a facilitator a million miles a minute. What if I miss something? What if the feedback is negative from the participants and they express it was a waste of their time? What if this team or coachee doesn’t get the outcome they’re looking for? I can’t recall a single delivery where I haven’t felt at least a twinge of anxiety in the run up to a session starting. And yet I do it anyway. Day in and day out, over and over again. I show […]
May 17, 2023
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