Leadership
The Power of a Great Question
We all know we should ask good questions. The problem is that a lot of the time we don’t do it. We default to the things that are more comfortable. When I’m teaching coaching skills to leadership, I often have them do a very simple exercise. Advice versus open ended questions In pairs, they take turns listening to a colleague, but in the first round, they do it with the hat of a mentor. They can give advice. And boy do they. These conversations typically descend into, “here’s what I’ve tried that’s worked. You should do this.” I hear loads of closed ended questions, lots of yeses and nos as they probe their colleague for what they tried and what they didn’t try. In the second round, they can’t give any advice, and only can ask open ended questions. (An open-ended question is one that can’t be answered with a yes or a no just in case you were wondering.). They really struggle with this one. But during the debrief, the folks with the issue typically report that the latter exercise, the one where only open-ended questions could be asked, was the one that really expanded their thinking or got them to see something from a different perspective. Why are open ended questions so powerful? I’ve often seen the light bulb go off after I debrief this exercise. If I’m asking an open-ended empowering question, the person on the receiving end comes to their own conclusion, not the conclusion that I think could be best for them. The benefit of this is that the person being questioned takes more ownership of whatever the solution is. Have you ever had a great piece of advice which you willingly gave to someone and just couldn’t understand why they didn’t take the idea and run with it? Well, it may have been great for you, but it probably wasn’t great for them. The ability to create one’s own solution creates natural by-in in the problem-solving process. It gives the person with the problem a sense they also have autonomy, which is something that greatly motivates folks and many of us desperately crave this in our work. I can’t tell you how many coaching clients I’ve had who are looking to leave a job who say they don’t have enough creativity in their work. They feel micromanaged. They feel condescended to. It’s not surprising considering it’s sometimes just easier in the short run to “tell” someone how they should do something. The problem is that this way of communicating creates loads of longer-term issues. Powerful open-ended questions also create engagement. If I’m telling someone what I think they should do, how engaged do you really think they will be in the conversation? Asking a powerful open-ended question opens the dialogue, I am engaging this person on a deep level, getting them to think critically and creatively about the issues they face. And if you don’t think engagement is important, think again. According to Gallup, […]
May 11, 2022
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